When two people come together into holy matrimony there are a lot of things they bring with them. Some are positive and some are negative but both are sure to create friction at times. The innate response most of us have is to change our spouse. Regardless the reasoning we use to justify this, it never ends well because no one can change another individual. We can influence or manipulate them into to acting a certain way but the core personhood of that individual will not change. True change comes from God the father calling out the person he has created each and everyone of us to be. Like a potter and clay, God is molding us into becoming more beautiful each day. After all, dream marriages only exists when each spouse is seeking God and being open to the change that only He can bring.